The Caregiver

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One More Day

My greatest and worst job I never asked for…

The caregiver wears the hidden superhero costume under their clothes. They dare not show fear, never be scared, never shed a tear, even when it’s peaking out from the corner of his eye. You must be brave and courages at all times. The person your giving care to only needs to see this side of life.

But what happens when the care giving has to end? No more medicine to give them, no more needles to inject into their bruised skin, no more cleaning them, no more feeding them, no more waiting rooms, no more doctor appointments, no more seeing your loved one going through so much pain. What is our superhero to do?

The rush and intense feeling the caregiver gets when the treatment works and the medicine has no side effects. Your getting out of the hospital today! Your…

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Published by Joni Roberts

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 41 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong and to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

4 thoughts on “The Caregiver

  1. Chris’ experience mirrored my own. Eight years of watching my vibrant other decline and reach her transition to the spirit realm, was a double time job. I moved away from judgmental people, both inside and outside of my family and only recently have re-connected with most of them. My sincerest condolences and well-wishes.

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  2. Thanks for sharing… I can relate to the story as I became a caregiver for my late wife while helping her deal with cancer for 4 years…

    “I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again”.. William Penn

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